I think you are worrying too much about giving yourself a label. I suggest you relax and enjoy being you. As for the sex, that will happen when you are ready, regardless as to whether it'"s with a man or a woman and that ready time is a different for all of us. I don't think noticing the girl when watching porn is unusual or indeed gives anything away about your sexuality either. As a young women you are obviously interested in how another woman acts/reacts. There's a reality check needed here though porn is often nothing like the real world.

As to where I am coming from, my serious relationships have been with men but I have had 3 liaisons with women along the way; the softness was beautiful. If I had to put a label on it, I think the best way to describe me would be "Straightish but past the curious stage" but I'm not sure, neither do I care. Girls/women are more tactile than men and I'm not even sure that any woman is 100% straight deep down, although many would cringe at this comment.

Enjoy yourself, take care and maybe you'll let me know how you get on? Finally if you do go for a man along the way, insist on a condom. Too many people are not prepared the first time.

Best wishes xx

I completely agree with the above comments. I can be REALLY confusing to find yourself attracted to both men and women, as you might be asking questions that, in the end, might not really have an answer. Am I more attracted to men or women? Why am I attracted to women in porn but not in "real life?" Why am I more attracted to men romantically at times, not attracted to women romantically but am attracted to them physically at times? These are all issues that have rolled about in my own head over the years but I am finally learning to just let it be and to, as the above person commented, "enjoy myself." I am in a serious relationship with a man who knows and understands that I have been with women in the past. We toy with the idea of inviting a third person into bed with us (a woman obv.!) but I don't think we will do it because of issues of jealousy and the possibility that it could threaten what we have created for ourselves. That said, I have found, more than anything, that it is really important to be open and honest about your feelings that you may have for both sexes and just explore! There is no need to label yourself. I still get caught in that mind trap at times, this incessant need to BE something, gay or straight, but all you really need to be is yourself.

I can understand where your coming from. Everyone is different, labeling yourself is hard I stuggled w/it myself. What help me was reading info on the Kinsey scale as well as BiNet. Also I realized that sexuality is only a small part of who we are. It is about being yourself and being a good person.

I know exactly how you feel. It drove me crazy to the point that I created my own website, where I've posted obsessive love letters that I never sent to the women I lusted over as well as poems, articles, and whatever. I agree with Venus1 that no woman is 100% straight. There's just too much to appreciate and enjoy about women. Women can be so sensual and, voluntary or not, this can lead to being really turned on. I'm dating this new guy, and I know that if I tell him I also like women, it would wound our relationship and trust in one another. But I also feel like I'm falling in love with him. It tortures me everyday. Bottom Line: I consider myself bi-curious. Until I actually hook up with a girl, I don't feel right saying I'm bi-sexual. I've had sex with men in the past, and it was really fun and enjoyable. I say try both at least once... when you're ready of course. (^_~)
My website is BiCuriousStraightGirl.com, btw. Good luck!